5 Timeless Parenting Lessons Only Moms Can Teach

As a mom, your days are always full--feeding, guiding, worrying, working, loving. Sometimes it feels like everyday is a day of survival. Your busyness juggle day-to-day tasks that seem to be never-ending. You wake up in the morning feeling really tired even though you have not started yet.

Your list of to-dos seems to be neverending. You start by waking up very early to start washing your laundry. While the machine is spinning, you start to prepare breakfast for the family. While the machine is spinning, your pan is simmering, you start watering the plants. You perform this routine every single day, and thinking about it the moment you wake up is already daunting.

You have mastered to become a multitasker over time. I know it was not easy. There were moments that your freshly cleaned clothes pile up like mountains; moments of having burnt nuggets and re-fry them again; moments of neverending dirty dishes in the sink. Over time, you have mastered the routine, but it is still overwhelming.

Then you realize you were just doing only have of your mommy hat. You wonder that you have kids to tend to--the most important part of mommyhood. Because of the daunting tasks, you have forgotten to be a mom. You have missed the part of taking care for your child--for giving them solid and quality attention and love that they need.

Because of the chores, you have not reserved enough energy to tend to your kids growing needs. Their whys and hows and whats slowly become unanswered or answered by, "I don't know," or "ask Google". They wanted to tell you stories about their favorite show, but you seem to have not enough energy to listen attentively. You are drowned with tasks.

Mama, you are not alone. Many of us moms experience these silent struggles. We don't even have the luxury of time to research on how to help ourselves. We are continuously drowning. Silently crying. Silently tired. These things have made us distant from ourselves and our loved ones.

Sometimes we feel that we couldn't be understood. We are too tired to explain our thoughts to people that matters. Even we cannot understand how we feel. Is this depression? Or just overwhelmed?

We couldn't just rant and acknowledge how we feel. This is just the first step. Let us help each other get this through. Here are five timeless lessons that mothers--through generations--have taught, and still teach today:

1. Presence matters more than perfection. Your child won't remember if the laundry was folded or the dishes sparkled. They will remember that you were there--truly there--during bedtime stories, morning cuddles, or quiet tears. Show up. In their every milestone, be there. That is enough. Learn to make time for them. They grow very fast. In time, their inquisitiveness and curiosity will fade. We don't want to miss it right? Cherish every moment and celebrate every milestone. They can not be kids for long. They will have their own life to build soon, and we are not sure that by the time we are ready to give them our attention, they are still there waiting for us. Show up, especially during those times that they need us. Chores can wait. Chores can be delegated, but being a mom cannot wait nor can it be delegated. It is painful to skip your child's milestone. Be present.

2. Love isn't always loud. Sometimes, love looks like packing lunches, waiting in the car, or staying calm during chaos. It's okay if your love doesn't always look Instagrammable, or something worth posting on Facebook. Your quiet, steady love is what shapes their sense of safety. There are many ways of showing love, and we own different languages of love. Knowing your child's love language is the key to giving him or her the best. Does your child want warm hugs? Words of affirmation? Spending time? Giving and receiving gifts? Doing something for you? Express your love in the love language your child is familiar with.

3. Teach by living, not lecturing. Kids listen more with their eyes than their ears. Want to raise kind, respectful, driven children? Let them see you live those values daily--even when it is hard. Especially when it is hard. Walk the talk. Modeling good behavior is the best way to teach our kids to be better individuals. If we keep on lecturing without seeing it in our actions, our credibility dwindles. Our kids might start to doubt our teachings. Mirroring good behavior is one way of showing them that it can be done and it is right.

4. Every child is different - and that's a good thing. What worked for one may not work for the other. And that's okay. Parenting isn't one-size-fits all. There is no manual for being a good parent. The wisdom lies in adjusting and exploring. Each one is unique, that is the beauty of parenting. When you have a number of kids, you tend to deal with different personalities. It is a beautiful and fulfilling challenge. Noone says it will be easy, we will be taking it slowly. There is no manual in parenting, but with the right guidance and support (like this one) can be a good help for us struggling. Know them more, engage in interesting questions, join them and play with them, know their interests.

5. You can't pour from an empty cup. You matter too. Self-care isn't selfish - it is survival. When you care for yourself, you teach your children to value their well-being. Remember, they also learn from watching how you treat yourself. You cannot give what you don't have. Don't feel guilty to have a good massage once in a while. You deserve it after a tiring day. Do you miss reading your favorite pocket book? Set a short time to read one chapter or even a few pages a day. Do you love to dance? Join dance clubs on weekends. Loosen up from the chores and take care of yourself. Remember, when you neglect yourself, you won't be able to set aside a part of you for the people you love. Recharge. Reset. Then keep going.

To be a good parent is not about getting it all right. It is about showing up with genuine love, growing through mistakes, and giving your best - even when it feels like your tank is running on low. I admit that I, too, is still struggling to become a good mama. But everytime I feel like being overwhelmed and tired, I always remember the greatest blessing--God has given me a chance to become a mom. It is a gift that I should nurture and cherish with love.

You are doing better than you think, mama.

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